My previous blog received a lot of comments from all our wonderful readers. One of them suggested that I should have used ‘Humility’ as one of the key elements of ‘Balance’. This set me thinking and the result is this blog.

In this article, I will talk about

What is Humility

The importance of Humility in Leadership

How Humility can be learned or Practiced

And some quick tips

Let’s start the discussion with,

What is Humility?

A simple definition of humility (‘vinamrata’) is; freedom from pride or arrogance. It is the quality or state of being humble.

While the dictionary definition may be easy to relate to or understand. The relevance of it in day to day life is far more difficult to follow and understand.

An old article I read had given me a great perspective on humility which I am sharing here;

“True humility, is when someone has an accurate assessment of both his strengths and weaknesses, and he sees all this in the context of the larger whole. He knows he isn’t the center of the universe. And he’s both grounded and liberated by this knowledge. Recognising his abilities, he seeks to contribute. Recognising his flaws, he wants to grow.”

Unfortunately, humility isn’t a trait/quality that is often associated with leadership. 

Visionary
Courageous
Charismatic . . 

are some of the words that come to our minds when we think of great business leaders such as Steve jobs, Jeff Bezos, Elon Musk or Bill Gates . . but Humility is not one of them.

However, A number of research studies have outlined the benefits of humility in leaders. Humble leaders listen more effectively, inspire great teamwork and focus everyone (including themselves) on organisational goals better than leaders who don’t score high on humility.

Humility is not discussed as often as some other character traits in leadership literature but it  underlies many of the most valuable leadership skills. Driven by the desire to learn and grow, humble leaders tend to be solution-oriented, open-minded, and fair. The humble leader is a mentor, a manager who isn’t afraid to relinquish control or admit their mistakes. 

We have all either experienced or heard stories of egocentric, arrogant leaders who have soured company culture and driven valuable employees to underperform or leave.  

And you may recall that, in his seminal book Good to Great, Jim Collins found two common traits of great CEOs: humility and an indomitable will to advance the cause of the organisation.

The importance of Humility in Leadership

Humble leaders understand that they are not the smartest person in every room. Nor do they need to be. They encourage people to speak up, respect differences of opinion and champion the best ideas, regardless of whether they originate from a top executive or a production-line employee.

I feel that humility gets a bad reputation because it is sometimes linked with subservience or weakness or introversion. Whereas, in reality it’s the exact opposite; humility is closely associated with highly positive qualities such as sincerity, modesty, fairness, truthfulness, unpretentiousness and authenticity.

And there’s nothing about humility that makes it incompatible with strength and courage.

It takes strength of character to set aside your ego and admit when you've made a mistake and strength of will to ask for help when needed.

Nor does humility mean lack of confidence. It takes confidence to share credit with their team members.

Some leaders are loud while others are quiet and introverted. Some are intuitive geniuses and others are total pragmatists. But regardless of their approach, at the end of the day, leaders must inspire trust, cooperation and commitment among the workforce.

Humility is an imperative attribute for five reasons, it makes a leader more;

  • Endearing. Admitting that you don't know everything endears you to employees and shows you are willing to grow and acquire new skills and knowledge.
  • Approachable. Peers and team members find it easier to approach someone when they know they won't be met with arrogance. Not being approachable can rob leaders of potentially great ideas or suggestions.
  • Inspiring. A leader who is willing to give team members credit and work side-by-side with them to reach common goals inspires others to do the same.
  • Empathetic. Leaders who understand the suffering associated with failure can better understand when team members make mistakes. The team naturally becomes willing to push harder and strive for greater things when they know mistakes will be forgiven.
  • Influential. Influence yields great power. When team members believe you reflect the trait of humility, they are more willing to trust and follow you. In fact, studies have found an inverse relationship between how leaders and employees view the leader's abilities, with leaders who underrated their abilities often being rated more effective by their teams.

The bigger the leader becomes, the more humble he should be; after all when a tree is laden with fruit, it bends down, so that others find it easier to pluck those fruits. Unfortunately the larger your leadership role becomes, the more difficult it is to be authentically humble. 

As you experience success after success, arrogance tends to replace self-confidence. When this happens, good leaders must have someone they trust to tell them they are becoming too arrogant to be influential. Once a leader loses his or her influence, it is extremely hard to guide a team or facilitate change.

How Humility can be learned or Practiced

For some, humility comes naturally. But for those who weren’t blessed with the ability to be humble, it is a learnable skill, albeit a difficult one. It may be called a ‘marked absence of the vices of pride’, like smugness, arrogance, vanity, envy, and domination (among others). Hence by consciously working towards eliminating these vices, we can become humble in many aspects of self.

This is very similar to how in Ancient India, we had the practice of consciously working towards removing our six vices; In Hindu theology, Shadripu/Shada Ripu are the six enemies of the mind, which are: kama (desire), krodha (anger), lobha (greed), Mada (arrogance), moha (delusion), and matsarya (jealousy); the negative characteristics of which prevent man from attaining moksha or enlightenment.

If a person is virtually a prisoner of Shadripu’s (six internal enemies), then his life is completely governed by destiny. As a person moves ahead on the path of Self-Realization, the grip of destiny over him loosens and he gets more and more leverage to change his destiny. When a person identifies himself with the Self or atma (spirit), then he becomes part of the power of destiny. Merely his power of Sankalpa (resolve) is good enough to materialize and change any situation either for good or bad according to his Sankalpa (will-power/resolve).

Similarly, through our resolve/will-power, if we consciously work towards removing these ‘vices of pride’, it is possible to learn how to be humble.

It’s not hypocrisy or ‘fake humility’ if there is an honest introspection to see ‘why did I just say that?’ Or ‘why did I do that?’ It is this honesty to self and a genuine desire to change that can make these artificial qualities that we are superimposing on ourselves - real. It is not just intent but when backed by practice, these artificialities start becoming real virtues.

Hold Yourself Accountable to eliminate smugness

There’s nothing worse than a leader who avoids or shifts the blame to preserve their own image. The most important tenet of being humble is owning up to your mistakes. Accountability in the workplace leads to improved performance. It creates an environment of acceptance and inspires critical thinking: it’s okay to make mistakes as long as we can address them, identify solutions, and move forward as a team.

Listen, Like, Really Listen to eliminate Arrogance

There’s a difference between listening and listening to talk. Real listening is driven by curiosity, and it goes hand in hand with humility. Humble leaders know that every conversation is a dialogue; an exchange of ideas that offers a chance to learn something new.

Learn to Take a Joke (or Criticism) to eliminate Vanity

Everyone knows that when you’re in a leadership position, there will be criticism, and there will be jokes - and you’re going to have to learn how to deal with the two. Humble people see criticism as a valuable opportunity to improve their skills or address their wrongdoings. They also know how to take a joke and differentiate between actionable criticism and jokes.

Be Selfless to eliminate Envy

Humility breeds selflessness. This is because humble people know their self-worth. They admire and support others - envy is not an emotion they feel. They are secure, and are able to put others needs in front of their own. Humility and selflessness indicate emotional intelligence; it’s good to take the time to understand others, their needs, and what can be done to help them.

Pass the Baton to eliminate Domination

Leaders who lack humility tend to be micro-managers. They’re so focused on ensuring everything is done their way that they lose sight of the goal, and for that, the whole team suffers. In fact, there’s scientific proof that micro-managing negatively affects teams performance and compels its members to leave. Humble leaders work hard to promote autonomy. More importantly, they’re confident in their team’s skills and are always open to new ideas.

Learning to be humble is not a walk in the park. It takes a great deal of self-reflection and emotional fortitude to better yourself as a person. Rest assured, though, the rewards are significant. It may not be an easy fight, but it’s definitely a worthy one.

And now,

A few quick tips 
  • Be a constant learner. It is almost impossible to be egocentric when you remain fully aware of how much you don't know.
  • Watch your pronouns. Avoid first-person pronouns like “I”, “me,” “my,” and “mine” when talking with your team or others about your team's work. It shows immaturity as a leader. Better to develop the habit of using third-person pronouns such as “we,” “our,” and “us” instead.
  • Look for ways to give credit. Your team will be willing to go the extra mile if they know you will acknowledge their hard work. Giving credit to others, even when you have done much of the work, motivates employees.
A good description of this process, can be summed up by the saying “Humility is not thinking less of yourself, it is thinking of yourself less.”

Humility is about minimizing the self and maximizing the bigger purpose you represent. When you think about humility in that way, it becomes a vital competency in leadership because it takes the focus from the 'I' to 'We.' Leaders with humility engage us and give us a sense of identity and purpose.

True humility also requires courage and trust that stem from the leaders' confidence in themselves and their abilities. There's a balance a leader has to strike between confidence and humility. Confidence is not about swagger but about the ability to project presence in the room, coordinate other people's actions, and help others take action.

In Conclusion,

Leaders that demonstrate humility hold people accountable, have tough conversations, and make difficult choices. They role-model, seeking the bigger purpose above the self-seeking approach. Those are the kinds of leaders that people will jump off a cliff for. Look at Gandhi, Abraham Lincoln or even Martin Luther King and see how this one quality gave them the ability to move millions.

What do you think? Please do share your thoughts on the same in the comments section below.

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With 30+ years in the fashion industry leading diverse functions like Buying & Merchandising, Design, Marketing, Sales, Sourcing & Quality, being associated with premium brands like US Polo Assn, Flying Machine, Arrow, Calvin Klein, Allen Solly etc. This collaborative blogspot is Anindya's effort to contribute back his thoughts and to provide a medium to industry's other like-minded professionals like him to share their experiences with a larger interested audience.

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